Adelaide vs. Melbourne



Listen to advice, but follow your heart. – Conway Twitty


Dear Ms. Emily,


I am conflicted. I have lived for some time now in Adelaide and have settled down quite nicely. However, I have recently bagged a great job in Melbourne in a once in a lifetime opportunity. My wife is pregnant with our first child and our baby is due almost at the same time we are supposed to move to Melbourne, so the stress of moving to another city, having my first child and taking on a new job all at the same time, is really high. I have a good job here in Adelaide but our hearts (my wife and I) are quite set on Melbourne. My dilemma is – should we stay in Adelaide or move to Melbourne? – Conflicted First Time Dad


Dear Conflicted First Time Dad,


It seems to me that the answer to your dilemma is already clear to you.

Here are some questions that could help you make the correct decision for you and your family:


  1. How does your wife feel about the move to Melbourne? Are you in agreement as to what is best for your little family?
  2. Are you up to managing all the details moving will entail – leaving the old job and accommodations, transferring medical records, finding suitable new lodgings, taking on a new job? Do you have the strength to carry this through?
  3. And most importantly, what does your heart say?


Ultimately, the best advice is the one your heart tells you.


Hope this helped.



*I aspire to be justice and mercy combined.


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Distraught Doctor



Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself.  Marcus Tullius Cicero


Dear Ms. Emily,


I am a doctor by profession, but my calling did not protect me from falling for a good for nothing husband.  We have been married for five years, stayed together for only 1 month during this time, but managed to have two kids between us.  My kids are the only saving factor in our relationship.  They are sweet, intelligent beings who deserve all my love. We are still married, and see each other on and off, despite the numerous women and lack of monetary support.  I still accept him when he comes around, and I keep on believing that he will change for me and the kids.  Am I correct in doing so?  — Distraught Doctor




Dear Distraught Doctor,


Deep in your heart, I know you know the truth – that your husband will not change his erring ways for any one. If he values you and your kids, he would have made a deliberate effort to show his love and respect.


If you stay married for the sake of the kids, please don’t. Kids are more perceptive that we give them credit for. Do you think this irregular set-up gives them the stability and happy home life they need and deserve?


If you stay married because you still have feelings for the guy despite all his shortcomings, then you are either a modern day martyr, or a sucker for all things painful.


Have a good look at your life, a good heart-to-heart talk with the kids, and take stock of your situation. Don’t shortchange, and in the process rob yourself of the chance to find true love and your kids of a happy and content mother.


Perhaps now is the right time to move on.


Hope this helped.




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An abundance of Bilimbi

Dear Ms. Emily,


I live in an Asian country and all year long, we have an abundance of Bilimbi fruits.  Often, we just let the fruits ripen and rot since we do not have much use for them.  Can you suggest an easy way to make use of the fruit? – Clueless Mum


Dear Clueless Mum,


I am familiar with the Bilimbi fruit – green on the outside and very sour, common in most Southeast Asian countries.  It has a variety of uses such as souring agent in soup, relish, beverage, pickles and chutney.


The leaves of the tree can be boiled and added to bath water to remove negative energy and after effects of illness from the body, for children and adults alike.  Apparently, the fruit is also used to control cholesterol.


I can understand your predicament – the Bilimbi tree bears fruits profusely in both wet and dry season.  During the wet season, I find it easiest to manage the fruits by giving them away to neighbors where they are always welcome to use for native cooking.


During the dry season, that is when it becomes more interesting.  What I suggest is to cut the fruits in half, spread them on a metal sheet and leave them out to dry under the heat of the sun.  Dried Bilimbi is expensive and you can add to your household budget by selling some of your dry goods.


Below is my original recipe for dried Bilimbi that even kids will love.


Dried Bilimbi Pasta


Extra Virgin Olive Oil

6 Cloves of Garlic

3 Medium Sized Onions

12 Pieces Ripe Tomatoes

Beefsteak Pepper (Roughly Ground Pepper)

A Handful of Dried Bilimbi

4 Cans Tuna

Fish Sauce

250 grams Spaghetti Pasta


Mince the garlic, cut the onions and tomatoes. 

Soak the dried Bilimbi and cut into very small pieces.

Drain the tuna.

Boil the pasta.


Saute the garlic, onions, tomatoes and bilimbi in a lot of olive oil. Add the tuna, fish sauce and roughly ground pepper. Add some water to make a good pasta sauce. Season to taste and add the cooked pasta.


It is an original, very straight forward and easy recipe that will make use of your extra Bilimibi fruits — healthy and kid friendly at the same time.  Your family will love it, mine does.


Till next time.


*I aspire to be justice and mercy combined.


Hello from Dubai side



Hello fellow readers of this blog. Im Chesca and I will be a sort of guest poster on this blog. I do not consider myself an expert in anything really, but like most people I have seen places and gone through a lot of things in life, and I would like to help share some of the things that I have encountered as well. Like may be telling you which path is easier in a fork on the road.


For the first question that I will attempt to answer, how did you manage to go to Dubai?

sea-beach-holiday-vacation-mediumIt’s not really a spectacular story. It’s quite simple actually. I have just quit my previous work in the Philippines, when I say just I mean, about approximately 3 months and my Aunt who was currently living in dubai visited us and saw my lazy bum playing computer games. She told my mum that it would be good for me try it there. Look for a job and live in a new exotic country. And that’s where it all started, they got me a visa, and I flew on the next flight out with them.


It took me a while to find my first job, and then the company downsized, and had to let me go, so I jumped on another job. I had in total 3 jobs when I was living there.

I can say that it was really an eye opening experience for me. One of the good things about living in the Middle east is that you are literally in the middle of everything, I was given a great opportunity to do a bit of traveling when I was there. And after living alone for a while, have enjoyed the wonders of cooking and baking. So, you kind of know where this is going. My articles will mainly focus on travel, and food. See y’all next week~bread-food-restaurant-people-medium

Gift of Healing

I have the gift of healing, especially children. Nothing major — a little stomachache, a little injured finger – I can make the pain go away. Perhaps because children are innocent and pure, they accept healing fully and much faster. Healing full grown adults is much more difficult – the body is too dense to accept the grace.

pexels-photo-largeI am also psychic, if you believe in that sort of stuff. Prophecy and precognition, mostly through dreams about things close to me. When I say something, it kind of sticks, you know, like a curse, as long as I am earnest about it.

And if you get me mad enough (usually about an injustice or a cruelty), my wrath will follow you until you get your just rewards. It doesn’t matter if you are on the other side of the world, it will happen, just like watching a Kill Bill movie, but more on a karmic scale.

I can even tell your fortune in cards, but they must be fresh cards and have not been previously used for gambling.

The most basic of all psychic abilities, yes, I can see and sense dead people. Well, not in a 3D graphic way, mostly like an image on my mind if I focus enough. If I can see them as clear as I see me, I would probably be stark raving mad by now.

I would also like to think that the merciful gods have also gifted me with Al Ferasa, as the Arabs call it. This is “a skill where the person can read the other person’s facial and body language and understand and know the truth about their character and intentions.”

It has served me well, has made me eternally watchful of other people. People are interesting in a way that books are, but books and dogs are much, much more companionable, don’t you agree?


Most of the time, I ignore these gifts. I refer to them all simply as common sense.

But if you are intrigued enough, ask me for details in an email and I promise to devote a full article here to satisfy your curiosity. It makes for fantastic and entertaining reading, even if you happen to not believe a word of it.

Till next time.


*I aspire to be justice and mercy combined.

Good advice is like bitter medicine.

This blog was born of a search for a good advice column. Suffice it to say that I searched and found not.


My friends say I give good advice. In fact, in a tight squeeze, it is almost inevitable that I be asked for my advice. That doesn’t mean they take it once given.


I have two true talents that the Good Lord gave – common sense and foresight.


The first one helps me break down complex situations, make sense of them and explain in simpler terms – a gift I found useful when I was a teacher in another life.


Foresight sometimes is a worrisome gift. I see the consequences clear as daylight, picture by picture, different permutations. Sometimes I want to change my name to Cassandra, after the Trojan Princess beloved of Apollo whose prophecies were never believed.


Sometimes. My husband still listens to me, which is like balm to my bruised prophetic skills. We all know he has to be biased.


To prove my point, let me relate a short story.


I was in the UK in 2007. And my host parent of less than a week said “Emily can surely sort him out” pertaining I think to a wayward son who I never had the chance to meet. Well. Enough said.


So. If you think you need some “sorting out”, I am here. Just email me your concerns at and I will surely do my best to help.


Oh. And there is a third talent. But that can wait in another article.





*I aspire to be justice and mercy combined.