The Power of the Written Word

“A diary means yes indeed.” – Gertrude Stein

 

When I was a young girl, I kept a diary.

The diary was an ordinary silly pink thing that I bought from the only stationery shop in town. I would stay up late in my big, dank room in the basement, alone with my thoughts save for the stark electric light, my dresser, garden table and chair, and queen bed, careful to keep the bathroom door closed so as not to spook myself.

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On this bed and way into the wee hours of the morning, I would alternately bury my head in a book or scribble some thoughts in the diary when the mood caught me.

I wrote the life goals that seemed important at the time — what I wanted to do with my life, my wishes, my heart’s desires.

Fast forward 10 years. Time passed, the diary forgotten until rediscovered one day.

It was an important day, a day when I learned an important life lesson that stayed with me forever. It took time, but yes, everything I wrote in that diary came to pass.

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EVERYTHING I wrote in that notebook HAPPENED. It totally blew me, I was amazed, a classic Eureka! moment, it hit me like a slap in the face. That’s when I realized that words have power, and I, we, have the power to make things happen.

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The Caulbearer

 

“Virtue has a veil.” Victor Hugo

My daughter was born with a caul, or a hood, or a veil over her face.  She is what is correctly termed a   Caulbearer, or the one “born behind the veil.”

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In many cultures, a Caulbearer is believed to be blessed, destined for greatness or to have a special destiny, to possess psychic abilities and be a bringer of good luck. They are said to be able to predict changes in weather patterns, find underground water supplies and are natural healers.

The caul itself is purported to be a talisman against drowning, a personal protection against the evil-eye and an object that brings good luck in business.

For the longest time, I didn’t know about the existence of Caulbearers, stumbling upon this topic only recently, but perhaps not accidentally.

It is fascinating to know that there are such beings among us.

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True Dreams

 

 

“No, there was nothing unusual in any of these dreams as dreams. They were merely displaced in Time.”

― J.W. Dunne, An Experiment with Time

 

I have vague memories as a young girl. I only started remembering life, clearly as it happens, when I turned 12. It was also when I started having true dreams.

 

The one that I remember most vividly is a vision of myself in an airport check-in counter, looking my usual Type A self, with two children in tow – one was a boy and the other was a curly –haired girl. I knew it was a boy because he was playing with a car, and the curly-haired girl was towing in turn a rag doll.

 

So was the truth revealed to me when I was still in my teens. I, who never wanted to have children, will have two. The first one will be a boy and the next one, a girl with curls. And that eventually, I will be working and living abroad.

 

When I was pregnant with my first child, I was beautifully radiant – even I was amazed at how good I looked. Everybody was complimenting me on my looks, my OB-GYNE wanted me to join a pregnant ladies beauty contest which for me was a truly, truly amusing idea. Everybody was saying that my child will be a girl because I was so pretty.

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When the time came for the ultrasound, everyone was equally astounded that it was a boy. But of course, I was not. When it was my daughter’s turn, she did not disappoint – she had curls like Shirley Temple.

 

Dream done and dusted.

 

From experience, the truest dreams and premonitions come in the wee hours of the morning, that time before dawn, just before waking.

 

Dream and remember.

 

 

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Government vs Private Employment

“When love and skill work together, expect a masterpiece.”  – John Ruskin

 

Dear Ms. Emily,

I am an expatriate based in the United Arab Emirates.  I have worked for an Abu Dhabi government office for almost 10 years.  My title is Clerk but in truth my work load is PA multi-tasking into almost all aspect of office work. I have received an offer from the private sector in Dubai with a good title to boot.  I am sorely tempted to accept this offer but I hesitate to take the plunge.

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Dear Hesitant Expat,

Why do you hesitate?  Let us weigh in the options.

You have employment with the Abu Dhabi government which, though the salary is not very high, the benefits are superb.  If I am not mistaken, you have relocation allowance, housing allowance, educational allowance and other perks like health insurance and working with locals. You also have good work timings (7am to 3pm) and two days off, not to mention long public holidays.

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Working for the private sector entails the same if not more work demands on your time and health and less benefits. Most offices in the private sector have only one day off and hours are longer (8am to 6pm), but not all. However, in the private sector, you may be given a better work title and more flexibility in the work place.

If you are ready for a change,  know for sure what you are getting into, and think that you will have fulfillment and happiness in a new role, then by all means take the plunge.

Moving forward is good for the soul.

Hope this helped.

 

 

 

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Bad Employers

“Work hard, stay positive, and get up early. It’s the best part of the day. “ — George Allen, Sr.

 

Dear Ms. Emily,

I am a computer teacher in a small private primary school in the Philippines.  I belong to the marginal sector of Philippine society, providing for a family of four comprised of myself, my wife and two small girls with a minimum wage budget.  I have a very stressful job – not because it is a difficult job but because of difficult employers –a husband and wife team.  The husband is a shrewd businessman who sees employees mainly as business tools while the wife is a micro-manager who keeps employees on the verge of a nervous breakdown.  At this point, life seems bleak with no good prospects.

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Dear Hopeless Employee,

Be of good cheer, there is always hope.

We do not always like our employers but we sure need the job.

We cultivate the patience of Job (of the Bible fame) when it comes to all the sh*t we can take for the sake of providing for our family.

If there are perks in your current work that makes it worthwhile to stay, then take that into consideration.  If it comes to the point when you cannot take anymore, my advice is to look quietly for new employment and leave.  Try to see where you can qualify.

Sometimes, fate gives us a kick out so we can accept and embrace better prospects.  Things may look bleak now because you are stuck in a bad place, but once you get out of the rut, you may be pleasantly surprised to discover that God has a better plan in store for you.

We can live in misery for a time, but not all the time.  Find your happiness.

Hope this helped.

 

 

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From Malaysia to Sydney

 

If it’s free, it’s advice; if you pay for it, it’s counseling; if you can use either one, it’s a miracle. Jack Adams

Dear Ms. Emily,

I have recently received my grant of permanent residency to Australia.  I am currently living in Kuala Lumpur, and plan to move to Sydney as soon as possible where I have friends who will initially take me in.  I am really excited about the prospect, and I would like to do the move right. I wonder if you could help me determine the right time to move, and the best way to get the right job for me? Should I fly directly from Malaysia to Sydney, or should I fly out from Manila where my parents are based? – Frankly Baffled

Dear Frankly Baffled,

Congratulations on your PR, well done.

To answer the first question, June to August is the height of winter while December to February will be summer. The time in between, I reckon, will be a pleasant period to do your move and job hunt as well.

A fast and efficient way to hunt for a job is through www.seek.com.au . May I add to wait for the job to come first before making the final decision as to where to stay permanently.

To answer your next question, I think it is more prudent to fly directly from Malaysia to Sydney that from Manila. If using the Manila airport, you will be required to attend a pre-departure seminar (PDOS) before being allowed to fly out which will not be necessary when flying from KL. (More information about the PDOS here www.cfo.gov.ph .)

May I suggest to visit the parents on another occasion, perhaps taking a separate trip before the big move.

Hope this helped.  Best wishes on your new adventure.

 

 

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Adelaide vs. Melbourne

 

 

Listen to advice, but follow your heart. – Conway Twitty

 

Dear Ms. Emily,

 

I am conflicted. I have lived for some time now in Adelaide and have settled down quite nicely. However, I have recently bagged a great job in Melbourne in a once in a lifetime opportunity. My wife is pregnant with our first child and our baby is due almost at the same time we are supposed to move to Melbourne, so the stress of moving to another city, having my first child and taking on a new job all at the same time, is really high. I have a good job here in Adelaide but our hearts (my wife and I) are quite set on Melbourne. My dilemma is – should we stay in Adelaide or move to Melbourne? – Conflicted First Time Dad

 

Dear Conflicted First Time Dad,

 

It seems to me that the answer to your dilemma is already clear to you.

Here are some questions that could help you make the correct decision for you and your family:

 

  1. How does your wife feel about the move to Melbourne? Are you in agreement as to what is best for your little family?
  2. Are you up to managing all the details moving will entail – leaving the old job and accommodations, transferring medical records, finding suitable new lodgings, taking on a new job? Do you have the strength to carry this through?
  3. And most importantly, what does your heart say?

 

Ultimately, the best advice is the one your heart tells you.

 

Hope this helped.

 

 

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