Nobody can give you wiser advice than yourself. Marcus Tullius Cicero
Dear Ms. Emily,
I am a doctor by profession, but my calling did not protect me from falling for a good for nothing husband. We have been married for five years, stayed together for only 1 month during this time, but managed to have two kids between us. My kids are the only saving factor in our relationship. They are sweet, intelligent beings who deserve all my love. We are still married, and see each other on and off, despite the numerous women and lack of monetary support. I still accept him when he comes around, and I keep on believing that he will change for me and the kids. Am I correct in doing so? — Distraught Doctor
Dear Distraught Doctor,
Deep in your heart, I know you know the truth – that your husband will not change his erring ways for any one. If he values you and your kids, he would have made a deliberate effort to show his love and respect.
If you stay married for the sake of the kids, please don’t. Kids are more perceptive that we give them credit for. Do you think this irregular set-up gives them the stability and happy home life they need and deserve?
If you stay married because you still have feelings for the guy despite all his shortcomings, then you are either a modern day martyr, or a sucker for all things painful.
Have a good look at your life, a good heart-to-heart talk with the kids, and take stock of your situation. Don’t shortchange, and in the process rob yourself of the chance to find true love and your kids of a happy and content mother.
Perhaps now is the right time to move on.
Hope this helped.
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